My boyfriend and his ex-wife?

My boyfriend and I have been dating seriously for a year, and we have talked and agreed to get married after I graduate from college. However, he was married for five years and has been divorced for three. Normally, this wouldn't have been a problem. But his ex-wife is crazy to put it mildly.


Every time we are at a social event together, she will come over and flirt with my boyfriend relentlessly. Not only will she flirt, but she touches him a lot right in front of me. She also will call him to do favors for her like move an enterntainment set, even though she has guy friends or her brothers to help her.


Also, I am eight years younger than my boyfriend so she will call me names such as, "kid," or "sweet pea," in a very condescending tone in front of people.


How can I make her understand that her ex is with ME now? How can I make my boyfriend understand that she is hurting my feelings? How can stop being jealous of his past with her and stop getting so hurt easily by her?

My boyfriend and his ex-wife?
You can try:


1) Telling her off. What I'd do is calling her a bleeding bumfucked slag that deserves to eat **** from her *** and then throw up a monkey. lmao


--or--


2) You can tell her [in front of everyone, mind you] that you are an adult, not a "kid" or her "sweet pea", that you don't appreciate being degraded. Then make sure to tell her this: "You are a perfect example of a rectal cranium inversion." If she's actually intelligent, she'll get it. If she's not, then she'll stand there baffled like the bloody git that she is.





And as for the bloke, he should see or should already know that her attitude is bothering you, or should at least stand up to her. Best thing I can tell you mate is that you need to have a discussion with him. I understand it's his ex-wife, but if this relationship is as serious as you say [and I don't doubt it is], he should take it more into consideration rather than giving in to her. And even though they have been divorced for three years, there of course is going to be history, so it's natural that he runs to her call. Even though he shouldn't [also keep that in mind]
Reply:aww why thank you deary! ^_^ Report It

Reply:I hope everything work(s)ed out for you! Report It

Reply:i doubt that anything we could tell you could help you to not get your feelings hurt that's a personal reaction and getting over that will have to come from you,but i would think if the boyfriend knows how you feel and still is quiet about this when she is acting this way that says volumes.her snide remarks about your age is directed towards him i bet its a dig about dating someone so young but i would talk to the b/f and find out where he is coming from about this but don't expect him to stand up for you he has already shown that's not going to happen good luck.
Reply:You need to tell your boyfriend how you feel. And if your the new love of his life, he needs to step up to her and say he doesnt want to be around her anymore. Its effecting your guys relationship because shes acting half YOUR age.





She will only listen to him, if its you she will know shes making you jealus which is pretty much her plan it seems, and continues.
Reply:Good thing you are still dating, because you are seeing what you will be in for. His first obligation will always be to his first family, and you have to understand that. She will always have been his first wife. If you marry him, you need to understand and be okay with that. It's not for you to get involved; only he must deal with her. Just as you have a past, so does he - but you are being totally aware of it now, and have decisions to make.
Reply:Next time she calls you "kid" call her "old girl". And say it quite loudly so that she'll get the message.


She's doing it on purpose to wind you up. I'd move!
Reply:He allows this to happen...Maybe you are eight years younger but that doent mean that she has a right to say and do things like that..If he does the things she ask him to ad doesnt say anything when she is so openly trying to hurt you then maybe you should re-think being with him.Have you asked him to stop?? if not then maybe you should sit down with him and talk him about how you are feeling and see what he says..if he says she was a big part of hs life for so long then you need to find someone else, becaus the only reason the would have to still be talking is if they had kids together..if there are no kids then he should tell her to take a hike..and think about your feelings and put you ahead of her..
Reply:It is your boyfriends place to stand up for you. It is his ex causing the problems so he should handle it.
Reply:tell him how you feel and how she makes you feel
Reply:Firstly i used to be in exactly the same situation,so know how u feel.


First u need to tell your fiance how would he like it if your ex was acting this way with you???


Then you need to stick up for yourself otherwise it wont get any better. I am 8yrs younger than my hubbys ex and she used to treat me like that,but not no more.


He needs to talk to her in front of you and say "get your hands off me only she can touch me like that"


Why does she go to the same pubs as you?? does she follow you.


At the end of the day if he speaks to her and means it she should take the hint......when she does something to wind u up say can u not do that please,and make sure he is ready to back u up. Take action from now and i swear it will change!!


After all she is an ex for a reason.
Reply:If your bf is allowing her to physically touch him he must like it. He should have put a stop to this the very first time. If he is answering her phone calls and helping her out... again the problem lies with him. If he will not stop this behavior I would reconsider him as a future husband.
Reply:maybe by finding someone else stupid
Reply:gurl punch that ***** in her face and let her KNOW whos in charge now and it aint her
Reply:This is not your fault and should not be your problem..


Your b/f should defend and protect you from this abuse..


Shame on him....He is taking you for granted and not


acting like the man who loves you...


This type of behavior probably contributed to his first divorce.


You need to have a serious talk with him and tell him that


his lack of manliness %26amp; maturity is about to destroy the relationship...
Reply:First of all, why is she around so much? Or why is she at the same social events as you? You need to talk to your boyfriend about it and he needs to cut all ties with her. Tell him how it makes you feel and how she treats you. If you had an ex that acting the way she does, would your boyfriend be okay with it? You should ask him. You need to know if he is really serious about you.
Reply:Put it bluntly to your boyfriend. "I am your girl now, you are my man, I need you to step up to the plate and defend me when your ex pulls this stuff."
Reply:Talk to him, and before she can touch him, or request anything of him, speak up, believe in yourself, have more self confidence, maybe KISS him in front of her, do anything , don't just watch her hurt you in front of him. I would catch hold of him before she could touch him, and start to touch him infront of her, its your right to do so, what she do to him, do it to him too. Explain to him if he asks, if you still cant figure out a solution, pls email me jade_soh8282@yahoo.com.sg let find a solution together.
Reply:well you need to not put up with this stuff. your boyfriend needs to say no to her, walk away etc..give her the idea that he is not interested. if he cant do that..than to me it says he cant say no to her and is caring more about her feelings than yours. he needs to assert himself or she will never stop. you could maybe fight fire with fire..say things like..here comes your old lady etc..but why lower yourself to that level. your boyfriend needs to get some balls and assert himself..or you are compromising yourself. good luck honey.
Reply:First off you need to make your bf understand he is with you now he could put a stop to it if he wanted. and tell that bitc# to puck off.
Reply:That's what you go through when you get with someone that has excess baggage....unfortunately.





However, you can talk to him %26amp; let him know that you never want to be in the same place she is...because she bothers you. He should understand. If he doesn't then...you know what awaits you for the life of the relationship.





Good luck.
Reply:I am 8 years younger than my man's ex too.....its called JEALOUSLY!!!!